The values of our society have changed dramatically over the last few years. A Josh McDowell survey of students who attend church regularly discovered that 43% had had intercourse by age 18; 35% of 17-year-olds said they had engaged in sexual intercourse; and 26% of 16-year-olds said they had had intercourse. Your student is bombarded with conflicting messages about sex every single day. They hear different messages from television, radio, school, parents, and church. They have so many questions and so many struggles when it comes to this topic.
To counteract these influences, be in constant communication with your student about God’s plan for their purity. We want to encourage you and provide ways to help you to talk with your students openly and honestly about this subject throughout their teen years. Communication is the key to having trust and dialogue with your student.
Here are some tips:
- Know what your child is learning at school. A majority of health classes teach comprehensive sex-ed curricula.
- Know which Web sites they frequent.
Get filtering systems to protect your child from internet pornography. Visit www.FilterReview.com for information on finding a service that is right for you.
- Know your student’s culture:
Read magazines, listen to their music, and watch what they watch.
According to a new study on television content, the number of sexual scenes has doubled since 1998. The study—Sex on TV 4, released by the Kaiser Family Foundation—shows that among the top 20 most watched shows by teens, 70% include sexual content and nearly half (45%) include sexual behavior. Among the 20 most highly rated shows for teen viewers, ONLY 10% of those with sexual content include a reference to any consequences of sexual activity at some point in the episode. Visit www.cpyu.org for the newest student trends.
- Preparing Your Son for Every Man’s Battle, Stephen Arterburn
- Preparing Your Daughter for Every Woman’s Battle, Shannon Ethridge
- Becoming the Parent Your Teenager Needs, Rodney Gage
- Teaching True Love to a Sex-at-13 Generation, Eric and Leslie Ludy
- Home Invasion, Rebecca Hagelin
- Parenting Teens with Love and Logic, Foster W. Cline, M.D. & Jim Fay
- Talking to Your Kids About Sex, Dr. Mark Laaser
- Right from Wrong, Josh McDowell
- Sex: More than a Plumbing Lesson, Amy Scheuring
- Right from Wrong, Josh McDowell
- How and When to Tell Your Kids about Sex, Stan and Brenna Jones
- You’re a Step-Parent, Now What, Joseph Cerquone
- 30 Days: Turning the Hearts of Parents and Teenagers toward Each Other (30 day devotion), Drs. Richard Ross and Gus Reyes
- Parenting Today’s Adolescent, Dennis and Barbara Rainey
- Preparing Your Son for Every Man’s Battle, Stephen Arterburn, Fred Stoeker, Mike Yorkey
- Daughters and Dads, Chap and Dee Clark
- How to be Your Daughter’s Daddy, Dan Bolin
- How to be Your Little Man’s Dad, Dan Bolin
- Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters, Meg Meeker
- My Heart Belongs to Him (interactive study), Nancy Butowski and Leslie J. Barner
- A Mother’s Heart, Jean Fleming
- Preparing Your Daughter for Every Woman’s Battle, Shannon Eldridge
- Your Girl: Bible Study for Mothers of Teens, Vicki Courtney
- www.pluggedinonline.com—movie and music reviews
- www.CPYU.org—Center for Parent/Youth Understanding
- www.familyfirst.net—Family First
- www.fathers.com—National Center for Fathering Family First
- www.fathers.com/urban—The Urban Father/Child Project
- www.allprodad.com—All pro dad
- www.integrity.com—filter for computers
Scripture on Sexual Purity
- 1 Thessalonians 4:3–5
It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control his own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in a passionate lust like the heathen, who do not know God.
- 1 Corinthians 6:18-20
Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body. Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body.
- 1 Timothy 5:2
Treat older women as mothers and younger women as sisters, with absolute purity.
- Colossians 3:5
Put to death, therefore, whatever belongs to your earthly nature: sexual immorality, impurity, lust, evil desires and greed, which is idolatry. Because of these, the wrath of God is coming.
- 2 Corinthians 10:5
We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.
- Philippians 4:8
Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable – if anything is excellent or praiseworthy – think about such things.
- Proverbs 4:23
Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life.
- Job 31:1a
I have made a covenant with my eyes.
- Ephesians 5:2–3
And live a life of love, just as Christ loved us and gave Himself up for us as a fragrant offering and a sacrifice to God. But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God’s holy people.
- Isaiah 1:18
No matter how deep the stain of your sins, [God says] I can remove it. I can make you as clean as freshly fallen snow. Even if you are stained as red as crimson, I can make you as white as wool.